Here’s An Actual Technique To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You

Now we have your attention, we should probably explain things a bit further. A list of 36 specific questions which were put together by famous American psychologist Dr Arthur Aron has been around for some time now. What they do (or he claims they can do), though, is far more impressive than the questions themselves, as they are supposed to lead you and a stranger to fall in love with each other just by answering them honestly.

How do people fall in love? Can it be through 36 questions?
Can 36 questions make two complete strangers fall in love with each other?

How The Questionnaire That Guarantees To Make You Fall In Love Was Made

As a graduate social psychology student from Berkeley University, Arthur Aron found the scarcity of research on love quite disturbing and took it upon him to investigate the ways people fall in love. Perhaps it was because he, himself, was madly in love with his fellow student Elaine Spaulding (who he ended up marrying) at the time that he wondered what made people fall for each other.

What Is The Questionnaire Like?

He and his wife came up with a questionnaire (here published by the New York Times) made up of 3 sets of a dozen of questions each, with the questions in every set gradually becoming more personal. They start off with question number one: “Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?”, continuing with very general things like: “Would you like to be famous? In what way?” and delving deeper into our mind and psyche with questions such as: “If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?”

Even though they did not originally create the questionnaire as a way to make people fall in love, but rather wishing to investigate intimacy in a lab setting, it ended up being used in such a fashion because it manages to make people open up so successfully and this kind of intimacy allows for feelings to develop.

After the two strangers have answered the questions (they take less than an hour to discuss),  they are supposed to stare silently into each other’s eyes for exactly four minutes. This is the moment of truth, as they will either feel the connection that may lead to a strong relationship or not.

Whether you believe in the power of the questionnaire, or not the fact that it has been used so widely and it has affected so many people so profoundly can’t go unnoticed. And even though there is no recipe for love, these 36 questions give us a clear sign that our mind can be the tool that makes us fall in love.