If You Want A Balanced Relationship, Do This
When we are children our parents sign us up to all sorts of activities, from folk dancing to arts and crafts and sports, and they are things we value and enjoy immensely. Why then, do we abandon our hobbies when we grow up? If we knew how beneficial they can be to a balanced relationship, we might reconsider.
How Having A Hobby Helps Us Have A Balanced Relationship
It might seem a little odd to say that having a hobby is so important for a person’s relationship, but there are quite a few reasons why it is so.
First of all, having a hobby means that you are interesting and active outside the relationship too. Most of the times, your partner will admire your dedication to your hobby and she will actually find your independence quite attractive too. It will also give your more to talk about when you are together.
Moreover, the time we devote to ourselves, the so-called “me time”, is invaluable because it gives us the opportunity to get away from all the stress and responsibilities of everyday life and just be happy doing something we like.
A third reason why having a hobby helps us maintain a balanced relationship is that we may find in our own activity the thing our partner doesn’t enjoy doing, thus fulfilling a gap that would be left void otherwise. Despite the romantic view that our partner should meet all our needs, the truth is that we can’t be the same (and neither should we, in fact). It’s perfectly fine to get fulfillment from different people and activities. If she loves ballet and you love basketball, you should both be able to do what you like without oppressing each other.
Finally, being able to do something you like well means you will feel more confident and strong, thus able to offer more to your relationship too. Remember it’s not the amount of time you spend with her that counts, it’s all about spending quality time together.
Have you been convinced about the ways a hobby can help you have a balanced relationship? Keep on pursuing yours, or take up a hobby you are passionate about.