Is Your Date “Roaching” You?
This year seems to be shaping up as the year for negative dating trends. 2017 is almost over yet another negative trend has emerged. Recently, a number of sites have named another trend that could be affecting each of us who are actively dating online. It’s called “roaching” and here’s what you need to know about it.
What You Need To Know About Roaching
Roaching – it’s a word that doesn’t evoke a lot of positive feelings. It sounds disgusting because, most likely, the first word that you think of when you hear it is roaches.
Roaching takes place when a new partner hides the fact that he or she is actively dating other people. When you talk to them about it, they will likely say that you didn’t discuss being exclusive in the first place. This is not to shine some negative light on dating multiple people. There’s nothing wrong with it, but the problem comes in when a person lies about it to someone interested to be in a relationship.
So why the term roaching? Well, there’s never just one roach inside the house. There are plenty. We just don’t see them coming out all at once.
Signs That Your Date Is Roaching You
How can you tell if your date is indeed roaching you? There are a couple of signs that you need to watch out for:
1. Avoiding being in public with you.
How many times have you dated in public? Have you eaten out at several restaurants or went to the movies? If your answer is no, then that’s a red flag. If your date has an entire list of other dates, he or she will likely avoid being seen in public with just one person all the time because it will raise questions.
2. Avoiding future talk.
When someone is roaching you, it’s likely that they may not want to talk about the future at all. They may not even want to label your relationship. Whenever the topic comes up, they talk about something else or you end up arguing.
3. It’s always your fault.
Most of the time, a date who’s roaching you will always tell you that you’re pushing him or her too hard. You’re pressuring this person into the relationship and that it’s not fun anymore. Don’t give in! It’s not your fault.
To make sure that you don’t experience this negative dating trend, the best approach is for you to have honest conversations with the people you date. Tell them what you want and don’t forget to ask if they’re dating anybody else. Roaching is just nasty so avoid it at all costs. For more online dating tips, read more from our blog.