What Science Advises You To Do After A Breakup
As amazing and life-affirming the start of a relationship is, so depressing and death-like is a breakup sometimes. Life, however, must go on, and science is here to improve the way we lead our lives. This is what science suggests we do after a breakup.
The Scientifically-Approved Steps To Take After A Breakup
We should be thankful for science because it’s the thing we turn to for a better life. According to it, there is a right way to deal with heartbreak. Read all about it.
Talk, talk, talk
Yes, you are now in the position to ask your friends to return the favor. You were once the listener of your friends’ whining and weeping, and now it’s your turn to do it. Let your emotions pour out of your heart, say whatever is on your mind and share your pain with those you trust. Your pain will still be yours, and you shouldn’t expect it to go away overnight, but sharing your thoughts will liberate you and serve as a form of psychotherapy.
McGill University, Canada, counselors clearly state “As we talk to others, we usually discover that our feelings are normal and that others have survived these feelings. Above all else, don’t isolate yourself or withdraw from those people who can give you support.”
Don’t write, write, write
Even though some of the most wonderful masterpieces in music and literature have come from artists who were in a state of heartache after a breakup, a study by psychologists of the Universities of Arizona and North Texas, tellingly titled “Expressive Writing Can Impede Emotional Recovery Following Marital Separation” advises us to hold back the inspiration, as writing about our pain too much can hinder our getting over the breakup.
Don’t hold back the tears
After a breakup, you should not suppress the tears any time you feel like doing a little (or a big) cry. ALL people, both men and women, let out grief and express their pain through their tears, and it’s perfectly OK to cry your eyes out if that’s what you feel like doing. In fact, research has found that it takes an average of 3 weeks to stop crying over your breakup on a daily basis. Even if you’re past that time frame, it’s still alright.
Give yourself time
The average person needs one year and a half to overcome the pain of being alone again after a breakup, as was found by a recent study. So, you should not push yourself to find a new partner right away, neither should you feel any kind of pressure from others to move on and overcome your emotional hangover faster than you are ready to.
Breakups are part of life. A nasty and painful part of life, true, but also one that we can’t really avoid. If it’s happened to you recently, make sure to keep your loved ones close to you after a breakup, to express your feelings through words or crying if you want to, allow yourself the time you need to heal and; above all else, love yourself as much as you deserve to be loved. Remember that every end is the chance for a new beginning and the end of a bad relationship can signify the chance for a much better one.