This Is How You Prevent Coming On Too Strong
Whenever you are dating online, things can get exciting especially if you reach a point where you’re about to ask a girl out on your first date. However, before you reach this point, you need to practice awareness so you don’t come on too strong and scare potential dates away.
Coming On Too Strong Can Be Prevented With A Chill Attitude
One of the main reasons why guys get so excited is that they are really interested in a lady. Or, they find the lady very attractive. Liking someone makes it significantly difficult for one to have a chill attitude. So, here’s what you do: it’s ok if you calm yourself down, but make sure that your responses sound chill. Here are a few scenarios and lines that will help you achieve this:
1. “I’m doing X, you should come.”
This line sounds very chill and it doesn’t put a lot of pressure on your date because it sounds informal. It sounds like you’re inviting her to hang out. For example, if your date likes movies you can say, “I’m going to watch the new action movie showing now, you should come.”
2. “Hey, I had fun last time. Let’s do it again soon.”
After your first meeting, you can say this line as a follow-up. Of course, you want to go on another date with the person, so you say this. Her response is crucial. If your date replies, “I’m free Tuesday night,” then you have to have a planned response, like, “Great! I’ll pick you up at 7pm. Let’s grab dinner at this new restaurant.”
You can also apply this line when you are on an online date. For example, let’s say you did your first video call a couple of days ago. You can follow-up by saying that you had a great time and you’re wondering when you’ll be able to video call next.
3. Relaxed Vibe While Communicating
You never want to sound desperate. When you do, you will definitely seem like you’re coming on too strong. How can you prevent sounding desperate? Live your own life. Of course, you don’t want to seem cold either, but the idea is to let your date know that your life goes on even without communicating with her.
If you don’t come too strong, your date won’t be creeped out. Just make sure that you carefully word your responses based on the tips you’ve learned here. For more dating tips, read other posts on the blog.