How To Build A Strong Relationship
From the moment you enter a relationship to the big day you get married and the even bigger day you have a child, and beyond, there are going to be quite a few challenges to face in your common life with your partner. A strong relationship will stand the test of time and wear, though.
These Are The Things To Do For A Strong Relationship
Despite the overly simplistic view that loving each other is enough to keep a couple together, a healthy and strong relationship is like a flower you should always remember to look after. Below are some of the most important things to bear in mind and put into practice every day.
Be sure of your feelings. The first big step to make is to decide you really wish to be in the relationship. Ask yourself whether you genuinely have feelings for her, or if it’s other factors pushing you into a relationship, such as social pressure or fear of loneliness. There is no reason to make half-baked attempts at having a relationship, not to mention the fact it is unfair towards her.
Be aware of the compromises needed. If you’ve been alone for some time, it is possible that you will be surprised by the compromises you’ll have to make. Your free time will be less, you may have to attend family gatherings you hate or put up with her circle of friends you don’t have much in common with, and she will also have to make sacrifices for you. Don’t enter a relationship expecting to continue living the single life while in it. At the same time, if you feel the compromises and sacrifices asked of you are too many, you may need to rethink the relationship or how ready you are for one.
Communicate your thoughts, fears, wishes or complaints. As time passes, you will inevitably have things troubling you about your relationship. Be vocal about these things, instead of thinking you will fix them by yourself or worrying about how she will take it if you complain. Also, express your desires and needs in a way that is clear and understood. You’d be surprised to hear how many relationships fail due to lack of communication.
Give your relationship quality time. Yes, the pace of life these days is hectic and you don’t have to give your relationship 20 out of the 24 hours in a day. But what you do need to do is actually be there, body and mind, when you are together. As with many other things in life, it’s not the quantity that matters, but the quality of time spent together.
Be a team. Nurture team spirit between you. Work together for common goals, share dreams and move on with them as one. Don’t let others come between you, value their contribution in your life but draw the line to how much they can be involved in it. Have faith in each other and stand by your partner in her times of need. Ask that she do the same for you.
Don’t lose yourself. Being in a team does not mean you can’t be strong individuals too. On the contrary, to be strong team players you need to be able to stand alone too. Many people go into relationships and lose the things that made them stand out, consequently losing the interest of their partner and the whole meaning of their relationship. The stronger you are as an individual, the better partner you will be.
A strong relationship can’t be built in one day, it takes a lot of work from both sides to achieve and it also takes constant effort to maintain. At the same time, it will reward you by giving you moments of complete happiness and, why not, a blissful life with your partner.