Do You Feel Taken For Granted? Here’s How To Handle It
No matter how amazing the person you’re dating is, you may reach a point in your relationship where you feel like you are taken for granted. All couples eventually get to this point, so don’t worry. It’s a normal phase to go through. However, if you don’t handle it correctly, you may do some damage to your relationship.
Avoid Being Taken For Granted By Putting Yourself First
First of all, don’t act out. It’s bad enough that you feel terrible. You don’t want to escalate the situation by bursting into tears or exploding in anger. You have to calm yourself first. Remember that you feel taken for granted because you put the needs of your partner first. This isn’t a bad thing to do, of course. However, if you do too much of it, the other person will always feel like you’re just there and you’re not going anywhere. So, here’s what you do about it:
1. Have your own life.
If you really want to stop feeling your partner isn’t valuing you enough, then you should work on getting your life back. Take up a new hobby or do something that you have always wanted to do, but never had the guts to do it.
2. Learn to say no.
Whenever your partner asks you for a favor, say no. You don’t always have to say no, but do remember that refusing to do something for your partner sends a message. It says that you are clearly prioritizing your own needs and time.
3. Ditch your partner once in a while.
This item is similar to saying no. Aside for adjusting your availability, you should let your partner feel that you have options. For example, if he or she asks for a date night, say that you would rather spend time with friends. Again, you don’t have to do this often as not to turn your partner off. Do it when you actually haven’t seen your friends in a while.
Learn from these tips and put yourself first from time to time. It’s great that you are so invested in your partner and relationship. However, you are losing yourself as you do this, and it’s not healthy anymore. Focus on your self for a while and see if you still feel taken for granted. For more relationship and dating tips, read other posts on the blog.